I Fell for A Married Man

I almost forgot to upload a post today, but the good Lord saved me. I got carried away because I'm helping a friend with flyers for his business and I cooked a bunch of food, but anyways...moving on. Let's giddy!
My people oh!!! Come see wahala. The devil is a liar. Your girl fell for a married man. Tufiakwa! So...here is how the story goes. My friends and I went out of town for a 'girls weekend'. We turned up for real and had an absolute blast. Whoop whoop! We went to a night club that one of my friends had recommended. He kept on introducing me to different people that night and wanted to get my name out to some people in the promoting/ entertainment business out there. What a sweetheart! We were on the way out when he introduced me to this one guy. I joked around with him for a bit before he offered me a seat, suya and drinks. My friends and I liked his vibe and we definitely reconsidered our exit from the club. We exchanged numbers. He was a darling all night long and told us that next time we came into town, we should let him know.
The next morning, one of my friends who was super drunk from the night before had something to tell me. I was all ears. She said that the man we met from last night had asked her about me and she told him that I was single. She then said that he told her that he would have hit on me if he wasn't married. I didn't have any feelings for the guy. I only saw him as a friend, so I had no worries right? Little did I know what was to come. Lol. Make I continue joor.
Some over-sabis would say I was looking for trouble, but just pay attention first. I'm not a home wrecker, ashawo, side chick, main bitch, left or right chick or husband snatcher! We didn't speak so much on the phone, but when we did, we engaged in conversations in a very paddy-like manner. We were quite local when engaging in conversations.  I was very careful when I spoke to this man and clearly respected my boundaries. After a while, my friends and I had established a "friendship" with him. We all spoke with him and referred to him as a brother.
I did just as he said, I let him know the next time we were in town. Before we were all about to go out, my friend said she wanted to bring something to my attention again. I was open to listen to whatever she was about to say. What would be so important to discuss on this trip now? She said that she honestly wasn't sure if that man was married anymore. I was surprised. I had never brought up this topic with him. As I said, we rarely spoke on the phone and he never mentioned that he was married. I was confused. She said that the night that we met him, another man had also come up to her asking about my relationship status. She reminded me that she was highly intoxicated that night and she didn't think that the guy we now all took as a "brother" was the married one. None of us saw a ring on his either of his hands and he clearly didn't act married. I was surprised, but believed her because she was very drunk that night.
After a few days during our trip, we were supposed to meet up with this man at a club. All of a sudden, I found myself developing feelings for him earlier that day. My people come see wahala! How am I falling for my brother? I began to consider a number of things. He was extra caring when it came to me, helped me get out of a stank mood the day before and for some reason I began to see him being a part of my future. Don't ask me what happened, but I did a whole 360 degrees shake around him. My sister and friends were ecstatic for me. They wanted to see a relationship between this guy and I work at all costs. We were very happy to see him when we went out. We had a great time that night and I even flirted a little with him. I didn't want to seem too forward nah!
I was so angry when our trip was over because I enjoyed being out of my city and I wanted to spend more time with him. We texted a few times but I didn't get a chance to talk to him on the phone since I had been back. My sister told me to call him, I was skeptical about it. I didn't want it to seem like I was trying too hard. I did though, but he didn't pick up. I was sad. I ended up going to a housewarming and found myself talking about him to my other girlfriends. They kept on telling me to call him. I was so damn shy! I was literally getting butterflies in my stomach from talking about him. As we were talking about him, he called back. I was so nervous, I couldn't answer the phone. One of my friends tried to answer the phone, but didn't know how to use it because it was connected to the bluetooth. Lol. I was WAY too shy to call him back, so I let my friend text him for me because I wasn't even bold enough to do that. He had gone out with his friends, so his responses were inconsistent. My friend told me to call him tomorrow. They all told me to make sure that this man wasn't married before I fell deeply for him as my body dry shake already. Too late!
The next day he responded. He apologized for not being able to respond to the last text that I had sent. I called him a few hours later when I woke up from my nap. We talked for two hours! Boy was i happy! That was the longest time that we have ever been on the phone, even he was surprised. We were stylishly flirting, talking about our lives, the next time I was going to come into town etc. I was blushing oh! We were learning so much about each other. Out of nowhere, the blue moon, the random backyard bush, mama put's kitchen!!! He blurted out "You know that I'm married right?" Walaahi, I almost lost it. Omo see disappointment! My friends had warned me. I told him "No, you did not. That's cute." I asked him a few questions and he answered them. He told me that he had been married for three years. Omo, see slap in the face! He never thought that he would marry a Nigerian, but he ended up marrying an Igbo woman. The fear wey catch me was like no other! Igbo woman in wrapper, dibia and curses coming upon me was all I could think of.
We finished off our conversation, but I wasn't disrespectful and didn't cut him off. Some of you may be like "Babe, you should have cussed him out and made him go chat with his wife", but I couldn't do that. As I stated earlier, apart from being attracted to each other, I was building a different bond with him that involved other people. My sister and friends had a family-like relationship with him. We had known him for a short time, but we grew to appreciate one another and had become a apart of each other's lives in a very odd manner that you wouldn't expect. I don't even know how to explain it. I was just thankful that none of us verbally came out and said that "we liked each other". We flirted in a subtle but yet apparent manner, but no one was aggressive when trying to get their point across.
I don't fall easily for guys all the time, but when I do, I fall hard! It's so embarrassing! My sister is embarrassed for me. Lol. I now have to work on getting over him over the next few weeks and embracing my reality. He is a married man and I have to accept the fact that nothing can ever happen between us. He was almost the perfect man, but, is there really any such thing? I should have known something was wrong. It sucks, but I'm not a home wrecker, ashawo, side chick, main bitch, left or right chick or husband snatcher! Make I go chop jare. Pray for your sister.