Who is Nikolai Obee? Very good question. Nikolai Obee is one psychedelic mamacita! She loves Afrobeats, fashion and will one day be the next best thing in Nollywood! Watch out for this authentic babe! As for now, stay in touch with some of her thoughts, fashion styling and overall crazy!
Yal...I have been DREAMING of the day that I would get a kente purse and the day finally came on Thursday, July 16th! My best Ghanaian guy friend, Kofi came back from his trip from Ghana and brought me a purse! It's absolutely stunning!
His mother passed away earlier on this year and he went to Ghana for her funeral. He had been gone for over 3 months and I was super happy to welcome him on his first day back in town. I tried to organize a get together for him before he left, but our schedules kept on fighting each other. Not only did he return, but he came with gifts! Walaahi, I love this guy! We were supposed to go out for dinner, but instead, my sister and I brought dinner over to him. He was so grateful and appreciative. My dear Kofi is going to be getting married in December (my birthday month), but I unfortunately won't be able to make it :( His wife will be blessed! It shall be a blessed union.
I wore the purse for the first time yesterday when I went for lunch. I was supposed to go with a girlfriend, but she ended up canceling last minute due to family issues and a lot of unpacking madness in her new place. After placing my order at the restaurant, we chatted during my whole time there. I basically had lunch with her over the phone (Lol...never done that before, but it was fun and felt kinda normal). It was my first time eating in such a public place by myself, but I had to encourage myself to do it. A lot of people will judge me and ask "Is she a baby? Why can't she be out by herself?"I don't care! I'm just not used to it. I always eat out or go to majority of places with others. It was different, but I throughly enjoyed myself. As well, nothing was going to stop me today from eating the absolutely delicious crawfish pasta I had set my mind on today. I hadn't had it in over 5 months! Just gaze at the picture below and you'll understand what I'm talking about.
My kente purse
I just left it sitting on the table so everyone could get cultured as they stared at it
You guys...I was super bored today. I felt absolutely depressed, lonely and upset because one yeye boy like this got back into town and didn't text me. I told him I wasn't sure if I would be able to make it over to his side on the day he got back from his trip, but... how is that an excuse to not text me? We talked yesterday and all seemed fine, so I didn't understand what was wrong.
As in...if you had seen me today, you would have felt sorry for me. I was just laying on the couch all day like I had been beaten by school master. I was checking my phone constantly to see if it was on silent, if one of my numerous notifications was a message from him and questioning if I should text him first. I was thoroughly confused.
I waited for my sister Ify to come back and I told her how I felt. I was literally sulking! She has warned me times without number not to have expectations from guys up until I feel it's getting to be a serious relationship. After listening to my woes, Ify asked me "Is he your boyfriend?". I said "No...but...". She then told me to shut up and let her use her laptop in peace. She proceeded to walk into her room and left me in the parlor. Laughing Out Loud! S/O to the one and only IfyBaebi! I really needed to hear such harsh words because it had become highly embarrassing. I told myself that I wouldn't allow that guy to ruin my entire 24hrs today. I got up, created the Blue Lagoon Makeup Look, took a shower, groomed myself some and called it a night. Not only do I feel 'clean' as I write this post, but I also feel relieved!
What do you guys think of this makeup look? I was going for something super dramatic and edgy. I used a turquoise gel liner from Kleancolor and matte blue lippie from Ruby Kisses. My aunty hates this lipstick and would rather not comment. I didn't ask for insults oh...just casual opinions. Hahahaaha
For those of you who aren't familiar with kilishi, it's thinly sliced pieces of beef that have been seasoned with peppery spices. I want to make it clear to any and every man, that The way to my heart is honestly with KILISHI! I don't necessarily like suya, but kilishi is my weakness. Suya is basically like kebab meat; its chunks of beef that are seasoned with peppery spices and onions.
Story story...story! There's one guy who stays in the same city as I'm in and claims to have been chasing me for the longest time. The day he found out that I'm obsessed with kilishi more than man, was one of the happiest days of his life. Sometimes we don't talk for a month, but once he says he has kilishi I am on the phone with him 24/7.
Our relationship has been nothing more than a friendhship since day 1, but now he is saying it has been something else and I'm denying it. Lol. Since when? His friend came into town from Nigeria and brought a box of kilishi (God have mercy). When he told me that his friend was coming, I reminded him to save me some as always. I thought he would do so, but that wasn't the case this time around. I met up with him and his friend for a little bit and he was completely out of character. He kept on saying "You know what you have to do nah. Ah ah...why are you behaving like this? You know you like me like I like you." Like who??? My brothers and sisters, when did I ever say that this boy is the apple of my eye? When did I ever say that he is my partner? Omo, see wahala!
I even invited him to the parties that I went to this weekend and he said that he will only come if I stop doing my 'shakara'. I asked him what he was talking about and he said I'm always doing shakara for him. This is someone I invite to all Naija parties oh! We go there as friends and leave as friends. He said that as long as I don't go about talking to other guys and spend time with him, he will come and give me kilishi. I was thoroughly confused and told him to honestly go about his business if he wasn't interested. In the end, he brought himself to the events but didn't bring kilishi. Walaahi...I almost passed out. I had to remind myself that woman must not live by kilishi alone. Some other guy told me that he would get some for me, so please pray with me that he will make my dream come true. #CrossingMyFingers
-Letter from a DESPERATE kilishi lover
Last weekend was the workout I never expected. Lol. I danced so much that I can promise you I burnt at least 2000 calories! One of my uncles (not my real uncle, but I call every elder uncle) had a baby shower for his wife at a hall by his office.
By the way, I have to mention that this baby shower started at 6pm! My friend had to remind me that such isn't the norm. Lol! Only in Africa are all events classified as late night parties. I love my people sha! We got in by 8pm (Pure African Time). The hall had no A.C. As in...kpata kpata! My sister and I walked into a wave of heat, but embraced it with open arms. We had to remind ourselves to dare not forget that we come from the motherland and refused to act bougie at such a special event. I had a hunch before leaving my apartment to bring my hand fan and I was so glad that I followed it! It was ever necessary! My uncle kept on apologizing because he had two cooling units and a fan but they weren't enough to keep the room cool. We assured him that all would be fine.
The food was absolutely delicious, company was great and after a while the music moved us all to the dance floor. I told everyone that I would only engage in small shaking of the body, but #Gbedu was full blown that night! I wore a maxi dress that was made of a light cotton and after two hours of being there, I was drenched all throughout my body. I was competing on the dance floor with people, taking it down low and cautiously bringing it up (I've realized that my knees aren't as youthful as they used to be, but I must never let it show. Lol!) I was so embrassed at how sweaty I was but my girls made me feel better. They kept on saying that nobody could tell, but I knew it was pretty visible. I was just glad that it was evident that I was sweating so much because of no A.C and my continuous movement. I was even outside taking in some air and one man asked "Have you had enough?" Lol...I said "NO!". It was such an epic night and I'm so happy that we beat the heat, I even ended up having one dance partner at the end and we were both killing it!
My uncle was so glad that we could make it and thanked my crew and I for making the event a success. Congratulations to the happy couple on their upcoming arrival of their new bundle of joy!
This uncle said he must be in this photo by power by force
My girl Michelle took these photos very well. You can't 'really' see all the perspiration caused by the #EverlastingGbedu
Fried and jollof rice with goat meat never tasted this good! #Yummy
The mother-to-be with her mother and son
The mother-to-be and friends
The happy couple. They had been dancing so much, but had time for a quick picture
Yal, so...I'm just getting back from this club party. My crew and I are at it again; 2 parties in 1 night! #Mercy. If you know me well, you'll know that I 'rarely' ever go out to the club (only when I'm out of town to meet bobos because where I live is lame!) The night started off at an uncle's wife's graduation party not too far from my apt. We stayed there for about 2 hours and had to bless the dance floor before we exited of course. Some of my 'former friends' were there and one of them tried to act as if we're cool. But...why??? He offered me a drink at the party and I gladly refused (if you would like to hear the full story of why we are no longer friends, leave a comment below). After that awkward display of whatever he wants to call it, I went about my business, ate a bit and had to say my goodbyes.
From there, we moved onto the second location which was a more upscale night club in town. An Afro-Caribbean party was taking place there and I had gotten in touch with the organizer. He asked me to help promote the party and of course yes I agreed. I know a good amount of Nigerians in the area, so that's no biggie for me. I had never met him before, but he sounded really sweet over the phone. He told me to text him when I got there so he could escort my friends and I inside. Lies he told! When we got there, the man wasn't even in sight. I texted him twice, got no response. I refused to get in contact with him again. As in...which kind thing be this? I did my part and invited a good amount of people to come out, now...why are you disgracing yourself? He almost spoilt my night, but I refused. As in...really though? Free work, no payment. He pleaded with me saying he was new in town and that my help will be highly appreciated. Liar liar! Oh well. He should never contact me again oh! My people and I just went inside and met up with the rest of the crew.
I had been told by my hair braider that the particular DJ performing was quite disappointing, but I didn't believe her. The organizer sent me his playlist and let me know he was legit. Walaahi...he had like current Naija music! How in the world was I going to believe her? You guys!!! I should have listened to her. As in...he kept on talking over the music, changing songs when 'the beat' finally dropped and just being weird. I just thank God that he had a few Afrobeats music as promised. My crew and I "murdered the dance floor" like there was no tomorrow. We know how to have a good time no matter the situation at hand, so we still cut up.
I'm extremely light-headed, so I only had one drink. I finally tried an amaretto sour! It was absolutely delicious, but I can absolutely say that one was more than enough for me. After a little bit, my head was almost all over the place. I'm such a lightweight, it's embarrassing. Lol.
The night was okay. Honestly didn't get much play, but I know I was on point *dusts her shoulders and does the shoki*
Me and my new boo Michelle. I met her at a family friend's birthday dinner. She's from Houston and is the bomb.com. We were at the graduation party in this pic. After we destroyed the dance floor, I was sweating SO BADLY! As in...I wanted to take off my beautiful new wolf's cardigan, but I was trying to be conservative because of Nigerian elders.
Ify and Dan. We call him 'Dan The Man'. Dan comes to town every few months and is always super sweet to the ladies
Photo stolen from Danlami Mike on Facebook
At the club. The heels had to come off. The DJ was dulling in full effect.
I'm so happy that I got to attend the Essence Festival 2015 concert on Saturday, July 4th! I went for the Expo for all three days in New Orleans, LA. On Friday, I met this guy and his friend while in line trying to take a photo at a booth. We chatted for a bit and went our separate ways. The following day, we saw each other again and he asked me if I was going to the concert. I told him that I didn't get a ticket, but that I was attending all days of the Expo. He asked me for my number. I gave it to him thinking that we were going to just to keep in touch. Later on that day, he sent me a text asking if I would be available to attend the concert with him for that night. I was like "Ogini?" I thought he was joking, but he was being ever so serious. I said YES!
I didn't have time to go home and change because traffic was insane, so I borrowed my sister's new cardigan which was really posh and cute (photo attached down below). I was relieved that I had my makeup in the car to touch up because it was a bit worn out. I met up with him at the concert and he escorted me in. We chatted for a bit as we walked up to the seats. I really wasn't feeling him that much after the short conversation, but I was going to give him a chance because he said that he had a crush on me and wanted to spend some time together before he left.
I thought he had some regular seats up above, but oh no! He had floor seats with very good views. I was like, who is this guy that was able to get me such seats last minute? I came to find out that he was an upcoming artist/ producer that a marketing company had flown in for the concert. They had given him an additional ticket for me. My head was swelling small. Lol. We had missed Common's performance, but we got to see Erykah Badu, Missy Elliot and Usher.
His friends that I had met earlier at the expo were already seated and were very nice. I actually had fun dancing and laughing with them all throughout the night. But, the guy though...I just was not feeling him cha cha. First off, his dress sense was very rough and his personal upkeep could have definitely been better. He had that rapper-esque style that I don't dig at all at all! Secondly, I had asked him what he had been up to all day and he openly mentioned 'smoking the weed'. I just couldn't deal! He then asked if I smoked, and I said "No...never". He in turn said that after hanging around him long enough, I will get high off what he and his friends smoke and eventually smoke with them. God forbid! I rebuked it immediately. That was such a turn-off! I just had to remind myself that I had to be grateful that I got such good seats out of a random act of kindness.
After the concert, I wanted to go home, while he and his friends wanted to go downtown. He told me that he really wanted me to join them. I told one of his friends earlier that I wasn't going to be able to make it downtown with them, and believe you me, I wasn't going to change my mind. It was obvious that his lifestyle didn't match mine and I wasn't sure where I would end up if I followed him downtown. I kindly declined the offer. He then asked if I wanted some company at home. I told him not to even worry about it because I would fall asleep and that would be rude. At this point I could tell he was upset. He was still nice enough to walk me to a cab and wished me a good night. We parted ways and that was that. Overall, I enjoyed the experience. They were a fun crowd to hang around with but it just would not have worked out between us.
Me and my wristbands
Missy Elliot killed it on stage! She was so enthusiastic and had the whole crowd jumping with her! I just didn't like that there were so many technical difficulties during her set. I was highly disappointed at Essence Festival's production team. It was Missy's first time performing for the festival and they should have been better prepared. They also cut off her set abruptly because they didn't want it running into the next performance. How rude!
Missy Elliott brought out one of her proteges (Sharaya J) and was the bomb.com on stage. It was my first time hearing of her and she was on point! Check out her performance below
Sharaya J- Banji (Essence Festival Performance 2015)
I am now the biggest Erykah Badu fan ever!!! This lady was phenomenal on stage (even the guy that got me tickets said he would marry him. I wasn't surprised). Her performance gave me chills! I wasn't really into her music, but always admired her style. She gave 100% energy on stage and her vocals were spot on!
I missed Common's performance #Booooo!!!!
So...I've never been a TRUE Usher fan. His performance was a bit lack luster for me and I found myself sitting down for most of it. Maybe age is catching up with him...I don't know. We left during his set. It just wasn't doing it for any of us.
If you don't know by now, Ify is my immediate younger bush baby sister. I am with this girl almost 24/7 and she hates it. Lol. I know she loves it deep down inside, if not... then too bad. It's the card life has dealt her and I love it!
Ify is highly fitness-oriented. She lost a lot of weight within the past two years and I'm extremely proud of her. She got invited for a second time to host a booth at The Lousiana Fit Chicks Expo in Baton Rouge, Louisiana and she dragged me along. I don't think I have mentioned it here, but if you know me very well, then you know I do not like exercise or working out cha cha!
As in, this girl has been trying to drag me along to work out with her for the longest time and I have only gone once with her in my lifetime. That day, I thoroughly embarrassed myself in the gym. After that, I ran away and hide from her whenever she's about to hit that dungeon. I just no get that kind physical energy. If something looks, sounds or feels heavy, I'm off to the left. Lol, but it's so true! I wear workout clothes because they look good and I give off the feel that I'm athletic. Lol. People always laugh at me because they think I have a workout regime until I tell them the truth. For where? I laugh with them jare!
I had a blast yet again at the Expo with her and her friend (Marie). Ify had a few prizes at her table and the attendees loved it. They had to do various workout moves to get a prize (I can't believe I didn't get a picture of the table). She had protein bars, bags, workout shorts, training packages etc. There was a squat challenge for the main giveaway which was a basket filled with a lot of pre and post workout goodies. Boy oh boy, this was the most popular challenge of the day! Everyone wanted to win that basket, but it was left down to two ladies who kept on squatting their lives away! As in, they did over 100 squats! The winner of the squat challenge scared me from the moment she came in. She was so built and muscular. As in, na babe that no man or woman should NEVER dare to mess with or it will be over. She was a sweetheart, but she was damn strong!
Overall, it was a great experience and I thoroughly enjoyed supporting Ify yet again!
Ify and I posing like we know we're cute and you can't tell us otherwise
Ify and attendee doing burpees for her table prizes
The winner of the squat challenge and runner-up with Ify and a guy from GNC fitness
