Your Punani is "The Beans"

My aunty has been visiting my sister and I for over a month now and she has been educating us about everything from boys to building a firm relationship with God to healthy eating. She recently went on a date with my uncle's friend who flew in from Maryland to see her. They had been talking on the phone, but never met in person. She hadn't been on a date in a long while, so I was definitely excited to see her step out of her shell.

When she got back home from her date, my sister and I were quite curious to find out what went on during the night and if she actually liked him. She actually really enjoyed herself and we were glad. She said that the man tried to kiss her before the end of the night, but she only accepted a peck because she didn't want to give any mixed signals. She didn't know how she truly felt about him since that was the first night out together and she didn't want to be forced into what she wasn't fully aware of. This was her first time meeting the man, so she didn't want to seem too forward as well. Overall, she was happy to get out of the house and felt refreshed.

She proceeded to go in real deep (as she always does...lol) in our conversation and explain 'the man chase' to my sister and I. It would only be expected that most of us have the common knowledge of what it means, but common is no longer as common as we think it is. Nowadays, a lot of young girls are completely out of character and misbehave at any given chance. She explained that a lot of men are willing to do anything and everything to get a taste of 'the beans' from any girl they fancy. You may be wondering what 'the beans' is. We were cooking a pot of beans and that was the first word she could relate to. Lol! 'The beans' is her nickname for 'the vagina'. Some call it: punani, pum pum, fine china, vajajay etc. She said that men can go to any lengths to get a girl they like. Whether it be calling her daily, buying her gifts, claiming her before they're actually 'official' or even approaching her friends for advice. The deceit comes once they've got the girl. They'll make her believe that she is so special and worthy of their attention for a chance to get 'the beans'. You'll find that the guy in question will be extra sweet, loving and playful with the girl to make her give up 'the beans' easier. In some cases, they may play innocent and make the girl feel important by telling her to be the one to choose when she feels comfortable enough to have sex. That way she feels in control of their relationship but is still pressurized to eventually have sex with the guy since it will be her beck and call.
Once both partners have engaged in sexual intercourse, you'll notice that the chase slows down and the guy becomes comfortable enough to do as he pleases. The guys who once claimed that he couldn't live without you and would marry you has gotten tired of you and would like to move on. 'The beans' you've been serving him has suddenly gotten dry and they would like to try new beans from a different chef. All that time you took to prepare your 'specials beans' for that man has been a waste. You now feel used and hurt. You can't force him to keep on eating it, so you eventually have to let him go.

Ladies...LISTEN UP! Hold onto your 'beans'! Your vagina is your temple and you need to respect that. Hold onto your integrity and be cautious of men. Not all men that say they want you really cherish you for who you are and what you stand for. Shine ya eyes well well my sisters and consider letting your 'beans' cook a little more before serving.