Letter to Debo

Never in my life did I think it would be this hard to get over you
You came into my life and swept me off my feet
I couldn't believe it
So I chose to ignore it in the beginning
We only met a few times
But I felt as though we connected on a different level I hadn't experienced before
Believe it or not, I couldn't stop talking about you
It was unreal and I couldn't understand why
The way you called my name
The cars you sent me
Your condo
Our jokes
And even your Ray Ban glasses, which I found extremely cute
But most importantly, the way you made me feel
All these things were nice, but it couldn't make up for my time with you
From the first day I met you, I fell for you

People say it was just a materialistic fling, but it was more than that with you
They called you my Mr. Grey
I called your my Mr. Stay
I patiently waited for the day that I would be called your girlfriend
We had our ups and downs but I still felt you were mine
Nothing was going to stop that
You tried to rush into sex
But, I wanted more than that
I wanted us to evolve together
To build a future together
That day never came

My family and friends told me that you weren't good for me
They saw me cry, hurt and depressed when you wouldn't treat me right
I would still cover for you
Make a hundred and one excuses because I didn't want you to slip away
I gave you chance after chance, until I couldn't anymore

I now find out through my sister that you're seeing one of my friends
But you have no idea
You met her at a party I was supposed to attend when I left town for a wedding
She doesn't know about us
What we had before you brought her into your life
She talks to my sister about you constantly
She's fallen for you just as I had
And she still doesn't know about us
I can't bring myself to tell her
How do you think that makes me feel?
All that keeps racing through my mind is what would have happened if I was there
Would we have been back together?
Day after day, I ask myself this

This is one of the hardest issues I've ever had to face in my life
That's why I decided to write you this letter
I have to set myself free from you
I need to get you out of my thoughts, dreams and entire being
You have consumed my life
I barely do a thing because I'm still so focused on us and what should have been
I talk about you to others as if I'm obsessed with you
They've listened to me multiple times and have tried to help me
They no longer know what to do
It's been three weeks
You haven't texted or called
I guess I'm pretty irrelevant in your life now right?

I can't keep on beating myself down anymore
So, I have to help myself
I have to let go
I have to erase you from my mind completely so I can move on
But, what hurts the most
Is that you never knew
This is how I truly felt about you

If I would have spread my legs, would you still be mine?

Debo

I'm Now An Aunty!!!

One of my best friends (Cristal) finally popped on Saturday August 8th!!! She gave birth to a gorgeous baby girl called Majesti! This was her first pregnancy, so it was definitely an emotional, stressful and beautiful experience. Her due date was supposed to be September 4th, but she had to go through an emergency C-section due to their health.
I was incredibly sad that I missed her baby shower on August 2nd because I was out of town for  a wedding. I made sure to send my gifts in advance though and she loved all of them. She had pre-opened them before the shower, but she reopened them again for the full effect. Lol.

Cristal at her baby shower

She made that gorgeous tutu! We both love tutus!!!

Cristal looking at Majesti for the very first time. She used the zebra wrap which was one of my gifts!

Princess Majesti

Summer Movement

You guys!!!!
I have been so damn lazy...it's unbelievable. I have been waking up these past few weeks, forgetting to pray, not dedicating proper time to write and ignoring this my blog #Shameful. I have definitely been busy this summer oh and I must update una.
The Nigerian community where I stay isn't very large, but we always enjoy spending time with each other (especially during this summer). Some of the Nigerians were either shy, too pompous or just out of character in the past. This summer has brought all of us together and we find ourselves doing something almost every week together.
We also have started an uncontrollable selfie madness addiction that has become the highlight of our gatherings. We look for where in the room we can possibly get the best #Light and take over 100 photos. Lol. It sounds absolutely ridiculous. Even our phone memories can't take it anymore. Here are a few photos from our escapades.

Birthday Party- Petrus' House Party

My sister and I got a bunch of people together for Petrus' birthday party. I played DJ of the night with my Bluetooth speaker and playlist. This was when the selfie madness started. We found one lamp like that in his place and just couldn't stop posing. Lights, camera, action biko!

Birthday Party- Kazi's Pajama Party

After we had such a blast at Petrus' house for his birthday, Kazi wanted to have another night of madness for his birthday. I came up with the idea that it should be a pajama party. Some of us dressed appropriately for the occasion, while others *cough cough*. They ordered a bunch more food this time around and we even had goat pepper soup #Winning

Birthday Outing- Precious and Aminat's Movie Night

I'm really not a movie person at all! But, I had to make an exception for the celebrants. They wanted to watch Mission Impossible. I was surprised that I actually stayed awake for most of it. I fell asleep towards the end. No one wants to tell me what happened because they say I was too lazy to stay awake. Lol.

My sister took a photo of me sleeping. We were already loud in the movie theater (being Nigerians of course) and she was acting out. One man couldn't tolerate it anymore and started yelling. It was funny, but we took this as a note to respect ourselves in public some more. 

Walaahi, I thought we would be slapped!

Girls Night Out

Some of the crew went to New Jersey for the Umu Igbo Unite Convention. I don't know how, but I completely forgot about this convention. I had been looking forward to it since the beginning of the year and it just slipped my mind because I had planned to go on another trip (photos coming soon). Anyways...those that went kept on updating us with pictures and stories on our group chat. 

Due to jealousy (lol), the girls and I decided to go out to a reggae club. I love reggae clubs so I was down. We were there for two hours and some girls couldn't take the smell of the ganja anymore. I don't smoke, but I'm quite used to it in clubs. Some of them even started choking, so that was the hint to say bye bye! We had a blast though.

Dr. Earnest's Graduation Party

You guys! My weekend is still not over. I have been hopping from one event to the other like my legs can't maintain one position. As in...Jesuit! I'm even going to another party tonight that I helped put together.
Dr. Earnest celebrated getting his doctorate degree last Saturday and it was definitely a big turnout. I hadn't seen some faces in a while and it was so much fun to catch up. My sister and I were supposed to wear matching African kente shirts that we got from our friend, but they ended up being too big. He warned us, but we didn't listen. Lol. She had a backup plan, but I surely didn't. As a result, we got to the event that began at 9pm at midnight. We are known as #OfficialLatecomers in the Naija community here. Lol. We need to seriously work on our African time though.
We danced the night away to the point that I'm still in pain till today! As in, I have been downing ibuprofen like no other. The gbedu was so serious that I took off my heels and was busting makossa moves on the dance floor. Talk about keeping it classy. Lol! My thighs, back and legs are still hurting.

My last minute outfit. I think I did pretty good! I've been wearing a lot of black lately and rocking bolder accessories.

These uncles were out of character. Flashing money and telling my sister and I to stop taking pictures with guys who don't make enough money. Lol! They were hilarious.

Mr. Bello is always cracking us up!

N-K Entertainment ushers rocking my shirts

Jason (to the left) just got back into town. It was great seeing him

Ebele (to the right) and I were sweating like crazy after murdering the dance floor. Thanks to the brilliant quality of the iPhone, you can't even tell!

This Girl Wan Spoil My Name

Make una hear this tory oh. Someone asked me to help them find a staff member for a particular event. I of course accepted to be of assistance to her. The lady had been very nice to me so far and I wanted to do whatever I could to help. I asked several people I know if they were available for the days she requested a staff member for. One girl that I just rekindled with told me she was available. She and I hadn't talked for two years because I chose to distance myself away from her. I did this because she's fond of broadcasting your personal information to people who have no business in your affairs and snobbishly talks about her achievements without caring about those around her. I applaud all her efforts for progress, but that doesn't mean she should show it off in front of people who aren't as fortuned as she is.
Another guy also said he would be available. It was only right that I offered the position to the girl who responded first. She also told me that she needed as much money as possible at this point in time to take care of some personal matters. I passed along all her information to event lady. She booked her, had a conference call with her and I even gave her the designated package required for the job. On the day of the event, I got a call as I was getting out of the shower. It was almost 2pm (Yes. I slept late. Don't judge me). It was from the event lady's company. The man on the phone said that the girl I recommended never showed up and refused to answer her calls. I was stunned! He said that his client was furious and they needed the position filled immediately. I sincerely apologized and assured him that I would quickly find a replacement. I called her five times. She let it ring twice and sent me to voicemail three times. I eventually got the position filled and the man was happy that I was able to handle the issue at hand. I felt that it would only be right to find someone else as the girl who was initially scheduled didn't show up.
Around 9.30pm, I was texting one of my friends on WhatsApp. I got a random call from that girl. I refused to pick up. She sent a text telling me that she kept on calling the event lady and that she never answered her. She said that she got a flat tire and her phone had died.
Now, this is where I have a problem. She NEVER apologized for her actions. Yes, she had a valid reason, but what about a common 'Sorry'? Instead she told me to let the lady know about what happened and that she made efforts to call her. It's funny to me that she said this and the company told me she never picked up their calls. Its obvious that she's a liar. Secondly, she knew that I had vouched for her to the lady to get booked for the position. They're were various people ready to work the job and she accepted it. I talked about her good work ethic and communication skills. It's clearly obvious that she lacks that. By the way, she forgot that she told me that her mother was coming into town today. Funny. She's a comedian and she doesn't know. Thirdly, I have said it before and I will say it again. Flat tire, broken window or whatever it is, if you are scheduled to work an event or regular job, YOU MUST INFORM your boss/ staffer about whatever issues you encounter on the way to work IMMEDIATELY. Don't do the dumb thing of not letting them know and ignoring their phone calls or sending it to voicemail because it makes you look bad. You look disrespectful and unserious. You will never be their first choice, probably won't considered for another position again or just get fired. If you don't know, know today!

Why Are You Doing This Mr. May D???

I was supposed to discuss this matter a while ago. Woju by Kiss Daniel is one of my #TopSongsOfLife, so I was beyond excited when I heard that May D had a remix out. I've always loved May D, but I don't understand what those two things dangling from his head are.
I didn't know it would be one of the most stupid remixes and songs I have ever heard in my life. Not only were the nasty things he was saying useless, but it was obvious that he didn't know what he was vomiting from his mouth. As in, before the first verse finished, I just closed out the whole song. What kind of insult is this to Woju??? Check it out for yourself and tell me what you think.

May D- Gboko (Woju Remix Explicit)

Naija Babe Behavior 101

LOL! This is honestly one of my favorite memes! This is not only applicable to Lagos girls, but this is full-on Naija babe behavior 101. I am guilty as charged my people! This nothing to be proud about, but it's just what it is. I'll share some of my experiences with you. Keep on reading if your eyes are looking for correct gist to come your way.

4. I'm on my period

There was this one FINE Jamaican man I used to talk to. Kai! He was fine, but he was just too fast. So many people warned me that he would try to do too much too soon, but I didn't want to listen because I would melt whenever I looked at him. His face, body and accent was just too good to be true. One day like this, he picked me up and we were chillaxing. Next thing you know oh... he started to try and go inside my everything. I was like "Ah ah..calm down nah!" He started telling me that there was another girl that he just has sex with but he didn't like her. He mentioned that she was just a casual acquaintance for when times got rough and he was 'in need'. BTW... I was not disturbed by this because this was only our third time seeing each other. We weren't exclusive, so I wasn't offended. He proceeded to say that he wanted a 'real' relationship with me. He said that he felt that I was the right one for him and he wanted to use this opportunity to have sex with me and build something from there. #LWKMD. This boy thought he had found mugu oh! 

I told him that I was on my period. He said that didn't matter. Chai!!! Omo, see hunger! I told him that I wasn't interested in engaging in sexual intercourse with him at that time and he should just forget about it. He asked "Will you eventually have sex with me?" I said "To be honest, no. But you can continue to have the other lady satisfy your needs. I'm fine with where we are". I think you know what happened next. That was the end of all communication between us!

6. I don't love you because of your money

I have never directly said this, but I have insinuated it many times. I had a scenario that occurred in relation to this topic not too long ago. I met this guy who is really well developed (as far as his bank account is concerned). He offered to take me out several times, but it just never worked out due to our schedules.  I would always try to come across as the strong, single independent chick that I am nah and act a if I didn't pay attention to his occupation. Na lie oh! During one of my visits to his place, he said that he had to get ready for a meeting. I was like sure no problem, let me just call a cab and start heading out. He said "Don't worry about that. I will always take care of your ride for you." Chai, see blessings! I said "Oh baby...thank you. I wasn't expecting this from you. You know it's not a problem for me, but if you insist. No problem." With all the paper we dey enter his hand, he better insist! All jokes aside, I really did like him. His money was just a plus.

7. He is just a friend

One time like this eh, I went to Houston and met a roll call of guys. As in...the babe was hot! I was talking to this one guy in the club one night like this. I then saw another guy that was trying to get my attention the night before and we greeted. The other guy was like "Who is that?". I said "Oh...he's just a friend" and shined my teeth wella wella!

8. I love you too

There was this guy I met through a mutual friend in Atlanta a year ago. He and I talked over the phone for 4 months! (The longest phone relationship I have ever had!). He was a SUPER darling and truly won my heart over that period of time. He caught feelings for me very quickly and I found myself doing so as well. The only thing that kind of scared me small was that he began saying those three dangerous words "I love you" within one month into this phone relationship. He said it A LOT and texted it several times. I never could text it back, but there came a time over the phone when he asked me to say it back. I didn't want to, but I practically felt as if I was being forced. I had to squeeze my mouth to the side and say it. I couldn't say it again though. Love is now taking it to a whole other level and I wasn't ready for that just yet. He was truly a sweetheart though. I felt as though he was the right guy who came at the wrong time.

My people, I don't condone any of this behavior. You have to be careful with whoever you're romantically/ sexually dealing with. I've made some mistakes and taken the wrong decisions when it comes to dating in my life, but I don't plan on repeating them. If you've had any of such experiences, feel free to let me know of them down below.